Showing posts with label purpose driven. Show all posts
Showing posts with label purpose driven. Show all posts

Monday, December 30, 2013

Why Resolutions Don't Work --The Power of Setting Goals

In the dictionary, “Resolution” is defined as: “a firm decision to do or not to do something.” While a “Goal”  is “the object of a person's ambition or effort; an aim or desired result.” While both


are similar in the sense that they both are a plan or intent; sustainable change in your life). The reason for this resolution failure rate is because when you make a resolution, you tend to look at the “What” (What it is that you are doing or giving up) and not the “Why,” (The reason behind why you are doing what you are doing) and with goals you focus on the “What” and the “Why.” It makes all the difference when we have a reason for our behavior and decisions.
resolutions tend to be forgotten and forsaken much faster than goals do. In fact, according to a survey of 3,000 people by Richard Wiseman in 2007, of all resolutions, 88% end in failure. (This may be a discouraging figure, but if you read to the end of this post, you’ll find out why resolutions don’t work and what you can do to actually deliver some
Let me explain:
When you make a resolution it’s typically along the lines of something like, “I’m going to go to the gym 3-5 times a week this year” or, “I’m no longer going to eat junk food.” It’s not that there’s anything wrong with the desire to do these things, the problem is that resolutions typically tend to leave out the “why” –or the reason behind why we actually made the resolution in the first place! The problem then occurs when we face a moment of temptation to eat that chocolate-glazed donut or skip working out at the gym “just this once,” because we don’t have enough reason as to why we should or should not be doing those certain things in the first place.
Goals are different. With goal setting, you “begin with the end in mind.” Your focus is less on the immediate and more on the long-term. With goals, you’re reaching towards an end result and can see a bigger picture. You set the end goal, or the desired result, have a reason for wanting to achieve that result, and then take continuous action steps to work towards accomplishing that goal and seeing it become a reality. Rather than having a resolution of “I’m going to go to the gym every day,” goals give us the reason as to why we are putting in the time and the effort to do something like going to the gym—to achieve an end result, in this case, “Have our healthiest year ever.” Can you see the difference?

Another problem with resolutions is that once we fail to follow through with our resolution once, we tend to lose hope and drop the resolution completely and are left feeling like a resolution-making failure. With goals on the other hand, they are something we are consistently working towards making a reality, so if we mess up, there is less of a finality to it, and more of an “I’ll try again tomorrow” attitude. We are more determined to see our goals through because we can see the end destination.

It's also incredibly important to write out our goals on a daily basis. When we do so, we keep our goals fresh, and in the forefront of our minds, making it easy to plan the day according to engaging in activities that will help us accomplish those goals. When we write out our goals, we increase our chances of accomplishing them DRASTICALLY. We may make a resolution up in our mind, but when we write out a goal we are far more likely to take the action in seeing that goal through. It's important to have and set goals that are personally meaningful to us on a regular basis, because they
bring our lives passion, purpose, fulfillment, and a sense of productivity and accomplishment. A wise man once said, "Without goals, people perish." And it's true. We need goals, and we need vision in order to not just survive, but to thrive. The wisest and most successful people will tell you the utmost importance of setting goals and taking action towards them! Hellen Keller once said, "The only thing worse than being blind, is to have sight, but no vision." 

Unlike resolutions which often cause us to forget the end result we are working towards (and therefore are easier to give up on), goals allow us to begin with the end in mind,” and we are much more likely to see things through. Goals inspire us to take action not because we have to, but because we want to. We have an inward sense of accomplishment when we achieve a goal, unlike trying to stick with a resolution that seems to have no end. Goals inspire a lifestyle transformation that provokes us to make the continual effort and investment to reach and accomplish them. Having that “why,” or reason for doing what you do, makes all the difference between successful and visible life-transformation, and another failed New-Years resolution.

I hope this post has inspired you to set some new goals this year,
and throughout the New Year of 2014, and I hope you feel motivated to dream big when setting your goals! Know that the sky is the limit when it comes to what you are capable of achieving! Set your goals high and you may just end up surprising yourself! ;-) 

I wish you all LOTS of love, peace, joy, and prosperity this upcoming year—and I wish you all the very best!

XO

Love,

Brigitte


“Shoot for the moon, even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.” 

"Without vision, people perish." 

Saturday, October 27, 2012

Finding Your God-Given Purpose

You were created with a purpose. You have been uniquely and specifically shaped to fulfill a task that only your unique design can accomplish.

Why then does it seem that so many people drift through life not feeling as if it has any meaning? Or they struggle on a day to day basis living pedal to the metal just trying to make it through to the next day?

The answer could possibly be that we have become so preoccupied with what society tells us we should do, that we never have time to fully develop, discover, or unleash our full God-given talents and abilities. I know especially for young adults just exiting high school there is a pressure to immediately delve into being a full-time student or employee—thus never having the time to truly discover what our purpose here in this world is.  It’s as Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”




You were created with a purpose. You have been uniquely and
 
specifically shaped to fulfill a task that only your unique design can
 
accomplish.

Another problem preventing us from discovering our full-potential could be that we are looking to the wrong source to discover what our purpose is. We tend to look to ourselves, asking questions like, “What do I want to do?" and, "What do I want to be?” There’s nothing wrong with that, but those kinds of questions may not be most beneficial when seeking to find our true purpose and hidden potential. Rather than looking to ourselves, it is best to look to the One who created us to discover the unique and amazing plan He has purposed us for. I like the way Rick Warren phrased it in his #1 New York Times Best Seller, “The Purpose Driven Life,” when he said, “You didn’t create yourself, so there is no way you can tell yourself what you were created for!” In other words, looking within ourselves to discover our purpose is like a pot telling the potter what it was created for. How can the creation tell the Creator what its purpose was intended for?

In the same way, we cannot discover our true potential and purpose by ourselves. The way we discover our purpose here on earth is to simply ask the One who created us! The Bible tells us that, “If you want to know what God wants you to do, [simply] ask him, and he will gladly tell you …” (James 1:5 LB).

To discover our God-given purpose all we have to do is ask! Once you do that, I guarantee you will begin to see your life led in ways like never before. Doors will open, things will be revealed, life will have meaning and purpose, and things in general will make a whole lot more sense! Discovering our purpose (asking God to reveal our purpose to us) is important because it gives our lives meaning unlike anything else in the world. I know for myself, as much as I enjoy hobbies such as playing the piano or exercising, nothing gives me more joy and fulfillment than writing does! I know it’s what my purpose is, and it gives me a feeling unlike any other. For others, they may be purposed to make music, dance, create beautiful pieces of artwork for others to enjoy, or compete in athletics—whatever it may be, we are all uniquely and specifically purposed and designed for something! (Something that will bring both you and those around you absolute joy!) Discovering and reaching towards accomplishing our purpose and unlocking any hidden talents and abilities brings a joy and satisfaction to life like nothing else! So start living on-purpose today! J

“If you want to know what God wants you to do, ask him, and he will gladly tell you.” -James 1:5 (LB)